Saturday, September 25, 2010

How you ask. . .I do not know

We've been putting the boys down in there beds at bedtime, and then as soon as they climb out and start playing we put them in their cribs. We really don't need the transition to happen right now, and I really didn't know if they were ready, so we haven't been pushing it. Which is why I was shocked when, on the third night of this nightly routine, the boys stayed in their beds. They did it the next night too. And the next day at nap time. I still can't believe it!



P.S. Big H did fall off the top bunk twice.

P.P.S. He now won't get of anything by himself no matter how close it is to the ground.
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  1. DendraSeptember 26, 2010 at 6:45 AM

    Feeling more grown up is a powerful incentive. This feeling can be used by children and young adults to achieve goals or it can lead them into places and action that are harmful, like smoking, drinking, lying, taking dares and being immaturity, etc. By letting them see that you are willing to let them grow up or have more responsibility for them self helps form a very strong bond for achieving goals.

    By putting the boys in their big boy beds you were telling them you thought you thought they were more mature than Monty (who needs a crib). Then by their actions they were not being grownup or responsible for following the rules by getting out of bed and playing with their toys instead of staying in their big boy beds. You showed them that you except them as they are now by letting them stay in the crib. When they found this out they felt safe they could not loose the most important thing in their world, your unconditional love. Now they were ready try. To believe they were grownup enough, big enough, and responsible to do this new thing you asked of them.

    They want to grow and learn and over come fears. Now they have seen and can trust that you will accept and love them even if they fail. That they can trust you because you did know that they could do this new thing. And they now feel the excitement and accomplishment of being more grownup (them being more responsible for their actions). Next time you ask something from them they will trust you and themselves more to obey.

    Way to go you two are doing an awesome job with your family.

    PS Maybe a little ladder with wide steps would help Big H feel safe again.

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